I met with a leader of my church regularly. He was there for me, took time to chat with me, to find out my thoughts and to offer a wise perspective. We covered temporal issues, spiritual concepts, my children, me, etc... On our last visit, before I relocated to Utah from Colorado, he gave me some excellent advice. He told me I was going to be working full-time and I was going to be a single mother. He said, "Andrea, as you go on and rebuild your life, remember to have fun! Don't let yourself be so burdened by all of your responsibilities that you forget to laugh and have fun! THAT is my advice for you as a single woman." Exellent advice. I've tried to follow it and live it. I recommend it for everyone. Another visit, though, he broached the subject of me marrying again some day. I shook my head and said, "No. I'm not marrying again. I'm 41 years old. I have four kids. I'm an 'old bag'! No one will want me!" He was kind enough to laugh and say, "Andrea, you're NOT an 'old bag'." Then why did I feel like it? But my church leader had a bit more perspective than I did. I went on my "first" date less than three months later (VERY unexpected.) And I don't feel like an "old bag" any more. Or maybe I really am one, but I'm too busy laughing and having fun to know it!