One day shortly after my divorce was final and I moved to Utah, my middle son, then 9 years old, came to me and expressed his feelings: divorce was a bummer. I had to agree with him. Then he asked, "Mom, is it a huge bummer that now you have an ex-husband?" I had to stop and think about that for a minute. An ex-husband was certainly nothing I ever expected to have. And I'd heard plenty of horror stories about former spouses over the years! All I could think to say was this: "You know, it certainly isn't something I ever wanted. But for me, I guess having an ex-husband is better than never having had a husband at all!" I have never been quick enough on my feet. But I've always been decent at attempting to put a positive spin on things, especially for my children. Even ex-husbands. I remain a fan of men AND marriage. (You just can't kill the love of fairy tales and happy endings in me.) "After seven years of marriage, I am sure of two things. First, never wallpaper together and second, you'll need two bathrooms... both for her. The rest is a mystery, but a mystery I love to be involved in." (Dennis Miller, comedian)