Then it was time to meet my brother. We went to dinner. Afterward, I had to know what my brother thought. He said, "He is certainly a good looking man! And he seems very genuine." In fact, every friend I introduced him to liked him and commented what a GENUINE person he was. After the lies and betrayal of my first spouse, I guess we were all struck by something REAL in Bachelor #5. After being thrust into my unexpected life, and witnessing the trauma and destruction one man's choice to hide things and NOT live a real and genuine life had inflicted on me, my children, and many others, I wonder if I was specifically drawn to the opposite of that, Bachelor #5... and I didn't even know it until everyone pointed it out to me? Whatever the reason, it's something I've learned to appreciate even more while living my unexpected life: people who choose to be 'real. ' Besides the fact it's the way I prefer to live (I'm too outspoken to live otherwise) , I find it courageous." It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are." (e. e. cummings) It really does.