“I don’t believe in dressing up reality. I don’t believe in using makeup to make things look smoother.” (Lou Reed)
My husband called me back less than 20 minutes later and the issue was resolved.
My husband and his daughter arrived in Utah the following evening and we moved her in to our home. When the settling in was complete, we sat down with her and went over the house and family rules, what we expected from her and what she could expect from us. (I printed them out and gave her a copy so there could be no misunderstanding.)
One week later, one night when she came to say goodnight before going to bed, I took the opportunity to ask her in more detail how things were going and how she was feeling about her new life.
“Ok, you’ve been here a week,” I said. “Tell me, how are you doing? How are things going? How are you feeling?”
I don’t know what I expected to hear, or what I expected her to say, but I wasn’t expecting to be so entertained by her reply: “I’m not going to lie, it hasn’t been nearly as bad as I thought it would be!” she answered.
I kept a straight face and waited until she left the room…to laugh! I’ll never forget that (honest) answer.
And really, isn’t that pretty much life? It rarely ends up as bad as we think it’ll be. And if it’s really that bad or worse, it doesn’t stay that way forever—I learned that myself from personal experience. Eventually, with enough faith, work and endurance, you’re on to a different happily ever after—if that’s what you choose.
“There are two primary choices in life: to accept conditions as they exist, or accept the responsibility for changing them.” (Denis Waitley)